I saw a Myspace bulletin this morning, posted by Ant, designer, promoter, and overall trendsetter at Sociallife101, which posed a question that was thought-provoking, but not in the traditionally deep or scholarly way. It was more in the vein of lesbian curiosity. That question was, What is the point of dating another girl who looks, walks, talks, and has all the features of a straight man, sans genitalia?
I know there are plenty of lesbians and bisexual women who read this site from time to time, so if you feel like giving an answer, I’m sure people would love to hear it. I understand “to each her own” and “everything ain’t for everybody”, but one would think that if you’re going to go the manly-looking route, you may as well get whole shebang…someone who doesn’t need to strap something on to blow your back out.
Is it that you still like manly features, but vagina floats your boat? Or is it that you want that sense of security and strength that manliness represents, but nothing else man-related at all? Or is it just something that you can’t explain, because it just…is.
I realize that this answer will probably be different for almost every woman who responds, since lesbians are individuals just like everyone else, and don’t have a set of rules as to who they should like. My father once said to me, “Son, the day you start to fully understand women is the day you become one.” That said, if I had to choose between licking between her legs,
and her legs,
Rosie would be sh*t outta luck. What’s so hard to understand about that? I’d choose Paula Patton ALL DAY LONG. All night, too. In the morning. In the evening. Late in the midnight hour…See. Paula’s so fine, she has me quoting Lionel Richie and the Commodores. Jesus is Love, alright…Robin Thicke, you’re a lucky dude. Don’t leave your girl ’round me…I mean, make sure you treat her right, bro.
*Waiting for Robin Thicke to drop the ball so I can move in on his woman*
Back to the topic at hand. All my wonderful female readers who happen to also be connoisseurs of fine tang, I’m waiting to hear from you. Rock out with your coc…wait a minute…that’s not gonna work…
Oh yeah…I mean, jam out with you clam out!
I never understood that either, I have a good friend, who left her husband for a woman, but the woman look like she unload refrigerated trucks for Safeway, I don’t know. I would think if you are going to be with a woman, she need to be the business for sure.
You know what I am getting tired of defending you at dinners….lol
I almost thought Paula P was Halle for a cool min. Got them mixed up in the DejaVu previews also. BTW, she’s as big as a house now, probably as big as Halle. What a coincidence. It’ll be funny if they give birth on the same day and have twin looking babies.
I’m also curious about some of the questions in this post. Non-lesbianically speaking, if I were to jump boats, I’d probably be creating new lip-gloss colors with another chick like myself. I mean what’s the point of sharing a home with another female if you can’t share shoes, shirts and skirts… But the question wasn’t posed to girls like me, so I’m just going to sit and listen….
And am I the only one who notices that when some of these girls go hairless, they’re fades are tighter than most men.
I am curious about some of these same things and can’t wait for responses. In the meantime:
Damn, Passion! This—–> “but the woman look like she unload refrigerated trucks for Safeway” made me laugh so hard my boss almost busted me!!
And Leon- Jam out with your clam out? nah, bro, you need Jesus, for real! LOL
Im not a lesbo….but I would lick inbetween Beyonce’s legs
no one ever asks straight women why they like pretty boys over ruff necks. Or a straight man why he choses to date a tom-boy instead of a model…you just assume because its a man and woman either way then it must be the “person inside” right. No one questions a man who likes big girls or a woman who likes tall men…its personal preference. NO one asks why do you date preppy boys or why do you like hood girls…
its the same thing with lesbians. the ONLY definition of lesbian is a Woman who likes Women… no where in that does it say how a woman has to represent her gender. ultimately it comes down to what one is attracted to. where one feels most comfortable and what turns them on most. and this is true of straight and gays/lesbians alike…
**my name is adande. i am a lesbian and i approve this message**
OH YEA…
i love this site i read it often. leon you are the shyt…
lol at this post and adande approving her message.
some things aint for everybody. thanks for posting the paula patton pic tho. take that pic of rosie down … smh
Yeah, I live in the Atlanta area, and you see some FINE ass women with women who look like they can work on a car and change oil faster than I could. Like I know i’d probably loose in a pussy-eating contest going toe-to-toe (or clit-for-clit?) with them…
I guess it just boils down to preference. Some things just ain’t meant to be questioned or explained. Some guys get turned on by pregnant women and lactating breasts. It ain’t my cup of tea (or milk), but to each their own.
I saw DaBrat and her fine ass Girfriend at the mall a few months back. There were guys all over the mall that would stop and just stare. This one dude said, “Yo man, I’d fuck the shit outta her girl and straighten her out.”
I said, “We ain’t got nothin that DaBrat can’t strap on herself”
“Man, why you gotta fuck a niggas dream up like that?” About 3 or 4 other guys who were in my vincinity gave me the look of death when I said that.
jam out with your clam out… *dead* just dead.
@ Adande, Great point, and thanks for the compliment…Although I am usually the type that DOES ask people why they prefer a certain type of partner, even if they are straight…LOL. I think the sticking point in this is the crossing of gender lines. That’s ALWAYS been an unspoken taboo in society, and it guarantees looks from people not familiar with homosexual people and “the life.” I don’t even know if y’all still say that phrase LOL. Gay people of color seem to change up their slang and code words faster than any demographic on EARTH! LOL
But like I said before, I was hoping to get feedback from lesbians on this topic, or even just the fact that I asked this question in general, so it’s greatly appreciated.
@ Jazzy, I already knew Beyonce was the one woman in the world you’d absolutely go gay for without a second thought! If you’re going to choose one, it does not get much better than that ;)
@ Alba, you know you’re gonna start saying that now!
@ LeoninATL, I would have looked at you the same way! You NEVER say that out loud!!!
@ Des, that Paula Patton picture made me smile, too :)
@ Marleaux, the woman I know who had the nicest low haircut ever is actually straight. She allegedly grew it out some, BUT I AIN’T SEEN HER IN A MONTH OF SUNDAYS!!!
Yes, I used my response to call someone out…but it’s my blog, so I can do that.
@ Velocity, My bad. At least I’m giving you all something lively to talk about!
@ Passion, the “Unloading Refridgerators” visual almost had me in tears laughing! Funny stuff.
I’m sure those oddball couples look at the rest of us normal couples and ask “How can they date somebody so ordinary/that looks like them/ that have everything in common/ with the same interests / etc etc etc?” Only God truly knows. : shrugs :
LEON!!!! Quit talking about me! we gotta meet up so you can see the new hair!
Oh yeah, Paula Patton is my new girl crush. Did you know she is preggers?
From what I heard, Robin has been tippin’ out on Paula. You may have a chance, Leon. Slight chance, but a chance nonetheless.
@Jazzy, Beyonce’s a gay fave for me, too!
http://zen-denizen.blogspot.com/2007/03/im-little-gay-for.html
lmao@jam out with the clam out!
I think women becomes lesbians because they want the strength of a man and the sensitivity of a female, because let’s face it, a lot of us guys treat women like crap.
lol, “shebang”
LOL @ Passion
the woman look like she unload refrigerated trucks for Safeway
That’s some funny shit!
Preach, Adande…
thats because they like d**k they just don’t like men’s personality lol * stole joke from a comedian*
I love lesbians and i ll like 2 be one of them but i have not found any girl to practice it with… What do i do?
“That loading trucks for Safeway, made me bust out laughing!” Shame on you Passion! LOL!
Leon, you brought up a really good point! If you’re gonna jump teams, it should be for the true “feminine” qualities. If I wanted a woman who acted like a man, wouldn’t I just stay with a man? Women are the epitome of SEXY and if I’m going to do it, then I’m going all the way! I’m a good looking feminine chick as well and I’ve been tempted by some of the sexiest women I’ve ever laid my eyes on! Miami is the capital of the Gays and Lesbians! I wonder how I’ve lasted these last 24 years w/o fallen to prey! HMMMMMMMMM! Oh yeah, Beyonce` is my girl crush, I would lick that heifer from head to toe! LOL!
Personally, i’m attracted to women that look like women, relish in their feminity, smile and have some innocence. I don’t want a masculine woman…because you are still a woman and really, calm down cause you got what I got. Consequently I like my men hella masculine. You can’t be borderline and pull me.
Now, i’ve been MISTAKEN for a dom before. But the weird expectation for me to aggress you is just way too much cause afterall…i got what you got so you really got to wow me with something else (mentals not genitals). I bump heads with most dom’s cause that’s just too many mfkrs tryna be in charge.
Listen everyone finds themselves somewhere on the scale between masculinity and feminity. You attract what you don’t have/cant get to within yourself.
Just a little honestly.