Why is it that certain activities kind of have a stigma attached when you do them by yourself as opposed to with other people? Some things are not as cool without someone else.
Dinner at a fancy resturant.
Ping Pong.
Sex.
Last but not least, going to the movies.
I have a pass to check out the film 21 over at Gallery Place/Chinatown. The crazy thing is, since I’ve been focusing on professional goals lately, I haven’t been doing much dating. Don’t get me wrong, my natural-born Black Fabio swagger causes me to end up getting phone numbers and attention from the fairer sex on a regular basis. I just haven’t had time or energy to chase butt…
*cough* …I mean, search to find a meaningful, fulfilling realtionship. Yeah. That’s exactly what I meant to type. :)
I could probably get laid tonight if I really applied myself…but the crazy thing is, five different times people have told me that they can’t come with me to this movie! I assume some folks had legit reasons, but when something happens five times in a row, it probably means it’s something wrong with my approach and not them!
Not that I really give a sh*t, since I’m trying to stay focused on SUCCESS and not SEXCESS at the moment. However, it did lead me to ask myself why I am so adamant about not going to the movies by myself. I have a legitimate reason to go alone, since I can write a review for the site before most people will get to see it. Still, I haven’t gone to the theater by myself to see a movie since back in high school. Back home, there used to be a matinee special at 10:00 AM every Wednesday which only cost $2. During the summers, I’d be there just about every Wednesday, whether with my friends, or by myself. That deal was totally worth any stigma society might place on me for sitting in a theater alone!
In college, I was one of the few people I knew who genuinely did not give a damn about going to the cafeteria by myself to eat. I know people who would wait for an hour to go with their friends, or get really upset if they missed their usual crew, and desperately searched for others to eat with. For me, my hunger won out over everyhing else. To hell with profiling and making an entrance. A full Leon is a happy Leon. A hungry Leon is a dark and sinister individual. So for the good of the entire university, I usually just ate when I got hungry, and found people to talk to once I arrived at the cafeteria.
So today, I have decided to fight back against convention and social stigmas by going to see this free movie by myself. I probably won’t write about it, though. I just want to sit back and enjoy the film in peace. Especially since it prompted me to this much introspection before I even set foot in the theater!
I’ve been to the movies by myself several times before. Sometimes, you just gotta say fuck it!
Also, I need to email you about some advice I need.
I go places by myself all the time. I use to be self-conscious about it at first, but I’ve learned to love it: movies, clubs, concerts, museums….I adore autonomy! Go when I want, leave when I please. I remember going to a club by myself and these two older women were ahead of me. One of them asked if I was alone, I replied yes to which she said, oh, I could never do that! Mind you, she was like in her 40s and I was in my early twenties…smh
Enjoy the movie, Leon!
I love going to the movie by myself. I find I can digest the flick much better and can eat all the Milk Duds I want without sharing.
Here here. I am all for going to a film by yourself, as when I do go with people, they miss stuff and want to ask me what happened and why. Plus, being the progressive negro I am, I tend to hit flicks that other people don’t want to see or aint on yet (e.g. No Country for Old Men, And There Will Be Blood), and I am not in a rush to see another Tyler Perry flick with the church crowd. Thus I am relegated to sneakin my favorite alcoholic beverage into the theater, solo. Welcome to the club brother!
uhm. i don’t like going to the movies by myself either. everyone who commented above me is cooler than me, huh? :)
i’m sure you’ll have a good time and enjoy the movie whether you go alone or not.
It totally depends for me. I’ll got to the movies by myself on a weekend day or on a week day by myself without thinking twice. But a weekend night? Not a chance. Not that brave.
I don’t blame you for ‘rollin dolo’ (I’m SO Northeast, LOL!) – Most of my friends are either married or have kids, so I’ve even gone to musical events in NYC by myself. As a result, I’ve met some of the greatest people, whom I consider close friends now.
As much charm/swagger as you have, you’d probably be able to procure some trimmage in a frickin dark a$$ theater anyway! LOL
Let us know how the movie was!
I’ll try not to take it personally that you didn’t call and invite ME. I would’ve said ‘No’ anyway. So there! :p
Speaking of solo adventures…last night I went to ‘Club Fridays’. Alone. On Bike Night. Ni99as was everywhere! I was meeting “friends” who had invited me to come hang. They failed to tell me they left before I got there. So I’m posted up at the bar all night ALONE…waiting…searching…looking like a Cougar in heat. Good thing I’m cute and people took turns keeping me company ’til my “friends” got there. Otherwise I would’ve felt like a straight loser. At least I got free wine and chicken wings.
Well, personally i think a person who can’t do thing by their self. There must be something wrong. I like doing alot of things by myself. Given i also like to do things in groups. But why wait as you said an extra hour to go to the cafe with your friends when your Hungary now. I guess its just me or others. But also going to the movies alone means you won’t have someone talking to you the whole time while trying to watch the movie…lol.
Peace Love & Joy!
-Lala
I just pretend I’m in a big version of my living room and no one’s bothering me with chatter or fighting for the remote. I love it!
Often, I find that other folks dont like the same strange ass movies as I, so if I want to see them in the theater, I have to go by myself! Hey, its still a good time, lol.
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sex, i can get with that, dont do movies though
I go to the movies by myself a lot and I actually enjoy it. I can sit back and pay attention without worrying about talking to anybody. It’s a total escape. But then again, I’ve been known to be a loner…
Either way, embrace it and you’ll be fine!
Last time I been to the movies solo was opening night of Transformers. It was on a Tuesday like midnight so that is probably why, but going to the movies solo is not a big deal. I enjoy going to dinner and the bar solo. I even go to the clubs solo as well.
Ping Pong solo would be impossible sicko lol
i travel a lot which means…im often in towns where i dont know anybody… soo..ive learned A) how to make friends quick.. and B) how to be comfortable doing shit alone…. that said..call me next time..you know im in that hood! xoxo
LOL! I used to hate going to the cafeteria alone in college. I would skip lunch/dinner if my crew had class or something or just take my food and go home. I just felt weird sitting at the big table all by my lonesome, looking all lost. But yet I’ll gladly go to a concert where I could easily be kidnapped, by myself.
so… how bad is it to go see “short bus” at the E st cinema alone?
Never been alone, but then again- I don’t really like the movies anyways. Always the possibility your sitting in somebodys skeet or some pink gum that you cant conceal from the crack of your fucking jeans. Shit like that.
Hell, self pleasure is better than sex with another…. you start when you want, end when you want, and when its done you feel no guilt.
ne ways, i have gone to eat ad the movies alone.
I like to spoil myself.
Plus, i hate the whole controversy that comes with the movies. The whole conversation of what are we going to watch, i dont want to watch that fiasco.
I like going to the movies alone. You’re not supposed to be talking anyway so why do you need someone next to you? But then I have been going to the movies alone since I was allowed to go to the movies with out my parents lol….But then I am a very impatient person and dont like to wait for other people when I want to do something. I’ve been known to go to clubs, bars, restaurants, movies, shopping, etc alone. Im very impulsive and dont like to curb that for other people’s schedules.
~Tai
All my friends are either out of town, have already seen the movie, or are busy today – and I REALLY wanna see this movie (Inception), so by reading this, I think I have the courage to go alone :) I’m 18 and this is will be my first movie theatre experience alone!…I hope I dont run into someone I know – That would be embarrassing.
@ Lori, I’m going to see that one tonight, myself.
Hey im 18 i been going to the movie by myself at age 16 and i love it. my friends make fun of me but i dont care i like going to the movies by my self. I think its way differt going with friends then your self. if you havnt been by your self you need to try it!
I go to the movies by myself all the time. I actually prefer it;. I’m kind of an asshole about it, lol.
I have never tried that. I always have someone with me when I go to the movies.