Comments on: Would YOU Marry Someone With 14 Kids?

By: CathrynMarie

CathrynMarie — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:15:07 +0000

I watched this on Dateline last night, and I must say I’m upset with myself for not hearing about this before then – wtf have I been? This woman is a mess LOL. Listening to her last night left me speechless..She is more worried about going to school to get her masters degree then she is going out and getting a regular, stable job to take care of her 14 kids. I know people should better themselves and should never be discouraged to go to school but mayne – 14 kids, no job, disability & 450 a month in food stamps..this is how she cares for the family she says she loves so much. Lets not get on the daughter who is pretty much unhappy with this situation…lil girl didnt even want to be bothered with the interview lol….

By: Seth Pickens

Seth Pickens — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 20:24:13 +0000

She seemed attractive until she kept talking and talking during that hour-long interview last night on Dateline. All the neuroticism and plastic surgury of a Jackson–none of the cash.

Great blog, by the way. Inspiring.

By: jkc

jkc — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 19:36:47 +0000

date? eh. marry? nah.

By: Dera

Dera — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 00:39:14 +0000

Hell no!! Next Question..

By: Kindra

Kindra — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 13:34:45 +0000

Would I date/marry someone with 14 kids at the age of 32(all 7 yrs old and younger) where their only source of income has been from a ($100,000+)settlement from being injured on the job, and from the help of strangers and their parents…….emphatically HELL TO THE NAW! I don’t care if they are going for their Master’s. I’m on my second, by you don’t see me spitting out kid after kid after kid!

It shows a lack of responsibility and selfishness on their behalf. To expect everyone to take care of YOUR children when you can’t take care of them yourself is ridiculous. Not only that, someone who just keeps having kids like that w/o any type of financial plan or true support has a few screws loose. I mean, the girl’s parents lost THEIR home taking care of HER responsibility. Whhhaaa?

My grandmother had 12 kids, 7 were from a previous marriage(well, technically 6 since one died at birth), and she remarried and had 5 more. But the difference is she had the support of my grandfather(and my other aunts and uncles, their father). The community wasn’t expected to take responsibility for HER children. She and my grandfather were. And while I’m a firm believer in the saying, “It takes a village to raise one child”, I think she took that saying alittle too damn literally.

Oh, and did I mention my grandparents were of sound mind?

In addition, you would never be the focus of the relationship. When you’re dating someone w/ kids, you have to share the “spotlight”, so to speak. Something I’ve done in the past, and did well with. You have to be a truly unselfish and understanding person to be in a situation like that when you’re coming into it with NO kids. But 14 kids? There would be no time for you and your partner. Your time would be spent getting absolutely NO sleep, no intimacy, no free time, no nothing. Any and everything would revolve around those children. Especially considering how young they are.

Would I be prepared for that at 27? 37? Even 47? Nope.

I have no desire to have that many children. So, I don’t see how I could want to marry someone who does. All the money and resources in the world would change that.

By: cinco

cinco — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 18:50:46 +0000

After my 20+ years marriage ended, I thought I would really have problems, even though 3 of my 5 daughters are grown. I met a wonderful man, we’ve dated 4 1/2 years, we have 7 kids between us 4 are grown…and it’s great.

I have Daddy drama and he has Baby mama drama but we manage. We also both work, are educated and very involved parents.

If I was in my 20′s no way. But in my mid 40′s our senario is the norm not the exception. This woman was selfish, and mentally unstable. Her fertility doctors should be disciplined. Raising children is difficult there’s no need to complicate matters by having 8 more when you already have an autistic child, and babues under 7.

I’m sure there was some sort of financial enticement. That being said, protect yourself and remember in a heterosexual relationship each person could potentially be a life time parent.

By: Kenya Goodman

Kenya Goodman — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 16:42:16 +0000

Heck no I wouldn’t marry or date someone with that many kids! That is a major red flag. Seriously. I barely want two kids myself, let alone someone else bringing 14 to the table. And the fact that this woman is unemployed and single, ought to be a smack of reality to this woman. Ugh…let me shut my mouth before I say something real rude, lol.

By: brran1

brran1 — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 12:36:56 +0000

Survey Says: HELL NO!

I don’t want 14 kids my damn self, so what would I look like trying to date/ mess with a woman who has 14? And she’s umemployed as well?
Sounds like she has too much free time on her hands.

By: Dirty Red

Dirty Red — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 00:11:46 +0000

Hell Nawl!!

2 kids maybe.
But 14?! Man please.

I dated(hit) a chick once with 6 kids. She had 3 sets of twins. All by the same dude who was locked up. Her next door neiighbor had 5. Whenever I wanted to get some of that good slowneck, I had to deal with all 11 of those bad-ass fuckers running around the damn house.
But she WAS finer than frog hair. She worked out constantly, so that body was banging like 6 12′s in the back of an Impala..
But 14 all under the age of 7?!
I DON’T THINK SO PLAYA!

By: caviar jones

caviar jones — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 21:45:26 +0000

Leon,
To answer your question honestly and whole-heartedly, hell muthafuckin naw. Just trying to have a friendship with a woman with a bunch of kids is hard enough. Now we are at the age where you may have to make an allowance with one or two, but that is where I draw the line. Once I get older, the woman’s kids gotta be grown or I am straight up robbin the cradle son! I love single mothers, my mother was one, but I’d be a damn lie if I didnt say we made it hard for her to have a relationship, especially when my brothers and I are all over 6’3″, 200+. Plus, baby daddy issues is not sweet. Maybe if I had kids I would be more lenient, but since I dont, I choose not to play in that end of the pool.

Shout out to those who do, you more man than me…haha.