Earlier this week, I randomly tuned in to Dr. Phil and it actually entertained me for about 20 minutes or so. The show was about gold diggers and their mentality as they look for rich men to throw money at them. When they were claiming that men were buying them lavish gifts and giving them cash and getting no sex in return, my first reaction was “Shut ‘cho lying ass up. You know you’re giving up some trim to those dudes.”
Then, I thought to myself, “What if they’re telling the truth?”
Men, we have got to put a stop to these sort of shenanigans! I know they say “It ain’t tricking if you got it”, but I beg to differ. It is. IT IS tricking, even if that money is just a drop in the bucket to you financially. There are two schools of thought when it comes to spending large amounts of money on random women:
The “Stop Raising The Price of P*ssy” School – This belief states that throwing money around at women makes it harder for the next man who either cannot, or will not do the same thing to get noticed. How is a smile and some charm supposed to top an all-expense-paid weekend in Paris? This school was also put in place to stop men from going out like suckers by doing all of that extra stuff and ending up with the same result: no sex from the pretty girl.
Part of me agrees with this school of thought, but only because I don’t believe I should have to pay for a woman’s attention or affection. If I enjoy her company and we have an actual connection, then I have no problem spending some money. However, that rarely happens upon first meeting someone.
The “I Don’t Give A Damn So Whatever” Academy – This states that since I have the money, and it’s not hurting my pockets, I don’t care about throwing it around for the chance to potentially get some. In theory, no one is hurt if the man accepts the humble reality that he’s paying for a shot at some pantydraws, and the woman accepts the fact that she’s using her vagina as a carrot on a string of sorts and that sort of thing gets you looked at a certain way.
I can understand the “If you have it, fine. If not, don’t worry about it, or step your game up and get your own” angle that comes with this sort of thinking, but to be honest, it’s not all that practical or realistic. Women like who they like, so it can backfire in spectacular fashion. Don’t get mad when you’re popping bottles and paying light bills while getting hugs, only to find out that some dude from the mailroom on her job is blowing her back out in the supply closet on the regular. These things can happen, so if you’re going this route, you must be accepting of them…Hell, you probably deserve it.
Fellas, Ladies, I want to know which school of thought you’re attending. If you are at another school of thought altogether on the issue, feel free to share it with us all.
Well, I’ve been married for 21 years, so I pay for mine in other, much more demeaning and emasculating ways these days. But, of course, being a Nupe and all, I never had to “pay” for it BM (before marriage). I was always pretty much the pimpee. LOL!!! Course, that was before I got right with the Lord.
@ anonymousnupe 21 YEARS!! DAYUM!! Good for you. Show these whoring Leons…I mean lechers that men do commit.
See, I like both the money and the nookie. I gotta admit I don’t do broke-ass men though. They’re just too angry and tense. Plus broke-ass for me also refers to lacking in ideas, drive and ambition. A man with a plan is the man for me. Then again, (heading swirling around neck) I can make my own damn money!!
I gotta see that show in re-runs.
And another thing…Did they have any white gold-diggers on the show? Cuz sistahs ain’t got nothing on white girls when it comes to going doing into the mines.
The game is eternal. Money will not and cannot make someone like/love you/respect you. Really, if you can come out your mouthpiece you will never be alone. Improve yourself and get somethings going for you and let a woman choose you off your personality. Any woman that will kick it with me on my finances is a woman I do not want to meet. Cuz it could be gone tomorrow. Plus, unless I just got out the pen, I aint payin to play. Hahah. Keep the price of p—y down!
@ Anonymousnupe, first off, congratulations on 21 years! Second, as many slick comments as you make over here, I’m not surprised that you were cut from the pimp-like cloth before you got right with the Lord!
@ Common Share, it was funny, because they had Dwight Freeney from the Indianapolis Colts(and of the over $70 million contract) posing as the limo driver, whom the groupie chicks shot down with the quickness before realizing he’s rich.
@ The Common Share, they did have at least one white one. The black gold digger in the gray dress looks weird in the pictures, but on the show she looked great.
Well said, my friend @ Caviar Jones
I commend Baje (the gold/GOAL digger on Dr. Phil). She’s in her early 20′s and already has the right idea. She has her own career going but will glady take the money that men throw her way …and then she’s on her way to the next lick. She encourages women to invest the money they accumilate along the way in order to secure their future. Her book gave me a whole new perspective on life. Check it out at AGoldDiggersGuide.com
I don’t see your point! I have money and have been trickin’ as you call it for a long time! I don’t spend money on women like you think. YES! I have spent $10 grand a female, but she was famous and had a hit album at the time. Now for the females who live in my area (Wash. DC) I spend maybe anywhere from $200 to $500., but if I spend anymore than that…it’s because I’ve taken a liking to her and I’am willing to help her out a little bit.