I had an epiphany about a year ago about comedy, cracking jokes with new people I met at bars, and how it was KILLING my chances with many of the girls I met.

When you tell jokes to a girl in excess like comedians are prone to do, it comes off as APPROVAL SEEKING. And nothing will turn a woman off faster than approval seeking. Women don’t want some p**sy that puts them on a pedestal and seeks their approval. They want a MAN, confident and sure of himself. Even if you are confident and sure of yourself, when you’re constantly cracking jokes it is PERCEIVED as approval seeking. It’s the ultimate nice guy, beta-male behavior. Women do NOT find this attractive. And they certainly don’t respect it. They’ll definitely think you’re sooooooooooooooooooo funny, and want to be your friend, but they won’t be attracted to you or want to date you.

So it’s not that being funny is bad. It’s the approval seeking that makes girls not want to date a comedian. As a male comedian… if you want a satisfying dating life, you either need to find a way to tone that shit down… or get famous. Because fame trumps anything else. You can approval-seek all you want and still get plenty of dates, as long as you have your own show! ;-)

I’ve read the CNN.com article and have to agree with the response it’s been getting: That woman is basically a bitter bitch. She just had poor luck in dating two guys who, by sheer coincidence, shared a profession.

In her defense though, despite me calling her a bitch, it is different when dating someone who makes people laugh for a living. A lot of comedians are silver lining people. I for instance always look for an opportunity that will make for a good story on the blog or on stage. However, I don’t go out of my way and announce that I’m doing so to the world in the way that the chopstick/cab driver/Italy comedian did.

Not all comedians are the same. Some record ideas the moment they pop up (which is extremely annoying). Others write them down. I for one store them in my head until I can jot them down in the privacy of my own home. That way I have time to think the story/joke out and to see how it looks in text and how it sounds to my own ears.

Moral of the story: Dating a comedian is like dating an accountant. We all like what we do. However, not everyone knows how to deal with us.

@ Michelle, very true.

LOL @ JR’s pseudo-psychology lesson. You’re basically doing the same thing the article writer did, and that’s lumping an entire group of people with one stereotype. You may as well say “All black people like watermelon” or “all white people can’t dance.” If you’re going to make half-ass generalizations, why not go whole hog!

@ Sage, I feel you. That’s what I was getting at with number 2.

@ dmb5_libra, My thoughts exactly

@ CurlyQ, I can understand how that can be irritating. You have to know how to shut that sh*t off when it’s not joke time.

@ Cephas, that is quite pimpish indeed! That’s why I chose to use that photo.

Thank you @ Kindra