A few friends of mine have gotten married/engaged/ found girlfriends recently. One in particular lamented the fact that after he proposed, he had to call a bunch of women that he used to see in order to let them know that he is about to be out of the game for good. This made me say to him, “Why? Why in the God damn Hell would you do such a thing?!”
I could not understand this man’s need to revisit the Ghost of Vagina Past, just to inform her that her services are no longer needed. I’m not saying that he should have tried to retain future sexual access to these ladies. That would be totally and completely wrong. I just figured that years and months of no phone calls would convey said message, without actually having to deal with any bitter bullsh*t from women scorned. Then again, if it were me making these calls, I probably wouldn’t have to worry about that. The women from my past would be glad that I’m someone else’s problem. The responses would probably be like “Peace n*gga! Tell your new chick I said ‘Better you than me, b*tch!’ You’re gonna drive her to drinking…”
As you all know, I’m not the most profound guy in the world. I just have the gift of gab, so the things I say just sound more awesome than anything most people could ever dream of saying in everyday conversation. Since I am utterly aware of my own limitations, I want to hear what you think about this topic. Men, would feel the need to make an “I’m off the market” courtesy call to the women in your past? Ladies, would you expect your man to do that, or expect to get such a call from someone you used to see? Let me know, because although I’m somewhat self-centered, I’m pretty sure I’m not too off-base with this one.
Also, not too get too far off-topic, but writing this made me think of one of my favorite scenes from Harlem Nights. I love how the kid answers the phone, thus illustrating that he’s a family man who is throwing away EVERYTHING after ONE NIGHT with this woman!
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Nope. I felt absolutely no need to make those phone calls. The only time I ever did it is if I was dating around and decided to date one exclusively – then, if there were others I respected, I’d let them know. By the time you are proposing, those other chicks should already have been put on notice a long time before. Or been long gone.
I did get a call from a chick I hadn’t seen nor heard from in about 6 years last week, but it turned out she had just joined some network marketing bullshit and was trying to sell me something. I felt both relief at not having to deflect her advances and peeved that they weren’t the reason she was calling. lol
LOL THAT’S funny! I’m glad it wasn’t what you thought it was! But yeah, you summed up my thoughts on the matter perfectly.
Yeah this is unnecessary. He should only do that if he’s been seein some folks on the side, WHILE dating the fiancee, in which case he needs to stop someone from ruining the marriage. Although he would be an ASS.
But a regular joe who has been off the market for a while anyway? No need to send out smoke signals.
I agree with everything you typed, too
In line with Milk’s response, unless you are concurently seeing folk, then there is NO need to make those calls, announcements.
So far, it’s unanimous: I was right! :-)
ok – i know i’m late but if I got this call and i hadnt even seen/spoken to the man in a while – then I’d probably clown him like shit on the phone.
But I do believeve all us single folk have at least one piece of ass we see maybe 2-3 times a year. They’d have to be told but I’d probably wait until they called to “reup.” lol
LOL @ “reup”